Care & Feeding, February 3 2024: "I Was the Mistress. I Never Wanted to Be Stepmom."
Because why be a member of the family when you could be a homewrecker?
Link to original letter here.
My take: To recap, for seven years, the LW had an affair with the married father of two daughters. When his wife found out, the marriage ended and she moved into the father’s new house.
The daughters are now adults. The younger has cut her father off. The older has “admittedly worked very hard to develop a relationship” with the LW. The LW was “standoffish” at first, because she expected the daughter to be rude, and “also because we didn’t have any interests in common.” But eventually a “pleasant rapport” developed.
Now that is in jeopardy because recently this daughter introduced her as her stepmother. The LW writes: “I don’t consider myself to be a mother of any kind. I don’t like that she’s casting me into this role.”
Everyone’s telling her to be grateful the daughter-in-law is so friendly, but the LW wants her to stop. How can she persuade her partner to see it her way?
Whew!
She says she’s 45 years old. Is it OK to call an adult a brat?
It’s Care & Feeding’s job to blow the whistle on this woman, and I’m glad to say Care & Feeding fully steps up. You won’t want to miss it.
Chance this letter is fake: Oh, it’s real.