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Carolyn Hax, January 15 2024: “Is it smart to move for a boyfriend who ‘doesn’t ask me not to’?”

Carolyn Hax, January 15 2024: “Is it smart to move for a boyfriend who ‘doesn’t ask me not to’?”

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Carolyn Hax, January 15 2024: “Is it smart to move for a boyfriend who ‘doesn’t ask me not to’?”
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Link to the original letter here.

My take: To recap, the LW’s boyfriend is moving far away, and she wants to stay near him. To follow him she’d have to give up an opportunity for herself. When she asks him if she should, he doesn’t ask her not to, but he stops short of “please come.” What should she do?

This is a good question, and Carolyn’s answer is sou…

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