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The Church of "You Can't Change Others"

With High Priestess Carolyn Hax

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Rachel Wildavsky
Aug 01, 2024
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Most of us know how columnists answer letter-writers who are struggling with close relationships.

They have boilerplate for those letters: It’s “you can’t change others.” You can only change how you respond to them.

Usually, this advice is excellent. It’s not unlike the opening words of the Serenity Prayer: “God, g…

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